Sunday, September 25, 2011

Divorce and Loss - Divorce and Gain

Divorce is really a challenge to go through.  I like to pass on writings that I find elsewhere that I think are pertinent to someone finding themselves facing divorce.  These will not always be related to the law.  Here is the first.

A Zen master said, “Now that my house has burned down, I have a much better view of the sky.” 

Sometimes when something we thought we needed is taken away, the space reveals riches we were missing because we were distracted by our assumed source of security. . . . We can choose fear or love, with no real options in between. You can go into panic and insecurity, or . . you can relax into security of a higher order than the one we have been trained to depend on. Shakeup can lead to breakup or it can lead to wakeup. Let’s use the experience as a call to remember how we were born to live. Devastation, personally or geographically, is never an end. It is always a means to a greater end. For everything taken away, something greater comes to replace it.  Alan Cohen  http://www.alancohen.com/articles/betterviewofthesky.htm  

By clinging to security we can miss things that we cannot conceive of from where we stand now.   Be open to change because you can't always do anything about it. 



For Smart Divorce in Texas

Diane M. Wanger (Divorcing people since 1983)
www.texasfamilylaw.info
817-285-2855